What can we do to better our chances?
We all get knock backs, but how do you better your chances for the next time we strive to achieve a goal or dream?
Chances come and go. Getting told that you were "close but no cigar" is bound to upset anyone. However frustrating it is, we need to continue to charge forwards, one step at a time. The strength of the character we have inside rises up when we're told no. Some get aggressive, some get creative & dig deeper. It's this digging deeper aspect that I appreciate. When the going gets tough, the tough get going, as the song goes.
So, what can the cards advise us about bettering out chances?
Position 1: What might be tripping me up? - 3 of Arrows
Position 2: Why is it tripping me up? - 7 of Vessels
Position 3: How best can I jump this hurdle? - Page of Stones
3 of Arrows : your heart maybe wasn't in the situation, to begin with. Whilst it looked good on paper, something rang true in the heart that caused a conflict. It's not easy to put a finger on it, but the spark that she at the start was noticeable when it went out. Take heart, something will come to you that is better emotionally suited to you.
7 of Vessels : okay, so now you're gutted and wishing you could go back to the moment the spark died. That's not quite how it works, you do need to mourn, work out why & say goodbye to it. That might sound daft but look at the image. It's time to say goodbye & move on, lesson having been learnt.
Page of Stones : This card is the quiet one in the corner, watching everything going on around them. This lynx is the quiet, observant big cat. Pay attention to what is going on physically around you. Careful consideration will redress any balance that a lack of forethought has caused. It's time to redress the balance, keep things down to earth and factual, not virtual.
You can't change the past, so don't try. Just let it go, and no, you don't have to be Elsa! Hanging onto the "what did I do wrong" thoughts just implies that you DID do something wrong. You probably didn't do anything wrong, the emotional connection between you just wasn't there, for some reason. So, onwards. Watch out for that in interviews, try to adjust your responses to suit. Let the emotional attachment go so you don't have it hanging around your neck during your next interview / chance / opportunity. Be yourself: everyone else is taken!
You're welcome to adjust this spread or use it for your own gain, that's fine! I've used The Wildwood Tarot cards (as always!) but if you'd like your own reading or you'd like a gift voucher issued for Christmas, you can book that right here.
Boundaries are the things we put up to protect ourselves & those we love.
They're also a pain in the rear end to enforce at times, complicated to work out & sometimes hard to explain.
What can you do when people continually ignore the boundaries that you need to have in place? What's to be done when the people in question happen to be close family?
This question came from Twitter but it can apply to anyone! "My dad wants to control me, even though I'm a bill paying, adulting adult! Boundaries aren't working, what now?" Let's see what the Tarot offers as advice.
What aspect do I need to understand? The Green Woman
What can I avoid doing about my situation? 8 of Arrows
What can I actively do about my situation? 3 of Stones
What aspect do I need to understand? The Green Woman. This card is interesting as she's looking at us with her milky cauldron. There are a lot of ideas & things going on here, but I sense that this is the more controlling side of her that's at play here from this family member. This lady isn't being magnanimous, generous or glorious. This is the energy of the Green Woman that's not flowing the way it should be. So the issue isn't with our querent, it's with their father.
What can I avoid doing in my situation? 8 of Arrows. Usually, this card is about battling through, clearing the obstacles one at a time. But this card is in the "avoid" position, so continuing on and battling through this doesn't seem to be the way forward now. Arrows link to the thoughts & communications. I sense that blockages, excuses and reasons for their actions are a penny-a-dozen.
What can I actively do about my situation? 3 of Stones. The stones link to home, job & this hints at teamwork, connecting to the idea you've had before about what you'd do if this didn't stop. That self-advice is needed now, so feel free to follow through on it. Get creative with the solutions, do things "outside" the box. Or on the inside, if you're a Whovian! 😉
Understand that this situation isn't down to you or your viewpoints, it's down to how they're not handling their inner Green Woman. They're being beyond caring and encouraging. They don't see the boundaries as they're blinkered by what they see is "good parenting". You can continue to struggle on if you wish, but the way you phrased your question and with the 8 of Arrows, suggests that isn't really an option. The creative aspect draws one more question: How?
The 6 of Bows comes out, which is a card of abundance, patience & find ways to allow the well-being within you to flow. Notice how this little coppice looks so homely? Perhaps that is the key you need here: a place of your own to give yourself & the parent, some space to exist.
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Looking at the past for the future, the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop
Welcome to the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop of 2016, where we're looking at the past to help with the future.
Welcome to my input for the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop. Whether you've come from Stella's link at USGames, or you're doing the traditional widdershins (backwards) and arriving here from Alison Coals' link, I say hello!
This year, I set the theme of the Sa-veen Blog Hop to "get advice from the ancestors for the future". Fifteen of us rose to this challenge, and I hope you're able to come along with your choice of seasonal drink in hand, to join us on on a journey of what our ancestors could advise for us.
As the veil thins, it's easier at this time of year to talk with those that walked before us, to ask them questions. Sometimes, we get a curve ball, a left hook reply. Other times we get a watery reply, their voices and replies lost to the harmony of distances and time. I created a 6 card spread to try and help cut through the noise which can happen. You're free to use, adapt & change this to suit your needs.
1 Use this position to represent your ancestor
2 What do they suggest will help you in your situation?
3 What do they suggest will not help you in your situation?
4 What should you carry on doing?
5 What should you stop doing?
6 What's the final message from your chosen Ancestor?
I didn't choose one ancestor, I chose the whole lot. I know there are spirits in there that I don't like, but there are plenty who I do (or did) and I want to hear their collective voices. The Ancestor was the card I chose for the central card: thankfully, the Wildwood has this card instead of The Hierophant.
1 Your ancestor - The Ancestor
This is the card I've chosen to represent all the ancestors that have come before. It's rather fitting, isn't it? My specific question was: What do I need to do to make my business a success?
2 What do they suggest will help you in your situation? - The Ten of Bows
I feel what they say here is to take charge & be responsible for what I've put into motion. Finish the job at hand, don't skimp, don't cut corners, don't pass Go or collect £200 until I've done all the tasks I'm supposed to do. There's some things I've set in motion that need addressing.
3 What do they suggest will not help you in your situation? - The Ten of Stones
Hiding in the home, not doing the things that need doing. Retreating inside myself is part of the issue I have had since the moment I was born. I do at times like to retreat away from life, this time though I'm being advised to not do that.
4 What should you carry on doing? - King of Bows
In this card I see a lot of snakes, vying for the top position. I've never read this card as "reach for the stars" from S Club 7, but more of a Fleetwood Mac "Go Your Own Way". There's a snake at the bottom of the pile, slithering away from the others. Hin is leaving them to their own devices, they're going their own way. I rather like Fleetwood Mac over S Club 7. 😉
5 What should you stop doing? - Major 10, The Wheel
Stop chopping and changing what you're doing, how you're doing it. Small changes are great, but you're doing it too often. You've got your niche, please follow it.
6 What's the final message from your chosen Ancestor? Four of Vessel
The Four of Vessels has to be one of my least favourite card in the deck. I believe this time it's asking me to not sit back and wait for things to happen to me. I need to engage, I need to find the excitement in life, it's not going to come and land on my lap. Well, drat. I was hoping the answer would just drop into my lap. I do not know where to look for the answers I need. So I must keep looking, searching and engaging.
My ancestors are basically saying to take care of the responsibilities I have, don't start looking for new ones, stick to the path I've started to carve for myself. Make the changes I see are needed but don't disengage from life, love or the path I'm on. For the first time in a long time, I'm quite happy with the cards and their message. What do you see? I'd love for you to share!
I am about to hop off to see what Alison Coals has to offer to us. I look forward to you sharing any results from this spread via reply. Thanks for stopping by!
This is the Master Link for the Samhain 2016 Master Blog Hop.
Use this if you get lost in the blog or you need to pick up a particular hop to carry on where you had to leave it.
1/ Morgan Drake Eckstein ~ http://gleamingsfromthedawn.blogspot.com/2016/10/talking-with-honored-dead.html
2/ Joy Vernon ~ http://joyvernon.com/Blog/looking-to-the-past-to-guide-the-future/
3/ Chloe McCracken ~ http://www.innerwhispers.co.uk/advice-from-ancestors/
4/ Jay Cassels ~ http://metaphysicalangels.co.uk/tbh5
5/ Deirdre Doran ~ http://thewillowpathtarot.com/2016/10/31/tarot-blog-hop-asking-advice-of-our-ancestors
6/ Karen Sealey ~ https://pureblessedtarot.wordpress.com/2016/10/31/dead-and-unburied/
7/ Olivia Destrades ~ http://firstearthtarot.blogspot.com/2016/10/samhain-blog-hop-guidance-from-our.html
8/ Boglárka Kiss ~ http://shadow-work.blogspot.com/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-samhain-2016.html
9/ Meniscus Tarot ~ http://meniscustarot.co.uk/by-gad/
10/ Stella Passer ~ http://www.usgamesinc.com/tarotblog/tarotbloghop-ancestors-advice/
11/ Louise Underhill ~ http://www.priestesstarot.co.uk/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-advice-for-the-future
12/ Alison Coals ~ http://alisonsalembic.blogspot.com/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-samhuin-2016.html
13/ Ania M ~ http://aniam.co.uk/blog/alas
14/ Arwen Lynch Poe ~ http://tarotbyarwen.com/18911/wake-the-dead/
The Tarot can often provide an insight into things that we already know.
We sometimes need to understand a situation at a deeper level. You understand what's happened, but not the why. Perhaps you know both, but need insight to help you "get it" so you can move on.
I was asked this question via Twitter: I know why my short-term memory is a bit foggy of late. What insight can I gain to aid in crispness & focus? I created a small spread to answer this question, which you're free to re-use, should you wish.
1/ What should I remember for my focus? The Sun
2/ What should I remember for my crispness? The Queen of Stones
3/ What is the best insight for me now? Knight of Vessels
What should I remember for my focus? The Sun answers, reminding us that we need to feel the warmth of things upon us. This card reminds me of summer, the smells of it can be remembered even in winter. It's the gift of memory. Use the senses we were given. The smells, the sights, the sounds. The smells especially are what I see with this card.
What should I remember for my crispness? The Queen of Stones is the most practical minded of all the Queens. Bears fatten up over the summer, ready to hibernate. They take practical steps to survive the harsh winters that were once known in this land, which is what I feel this card is saying to you here. Take practical steps. The Queen of Stones doesn't suggest note things down, but if putting things you need to remember into words helps you, then that is something I feel you should follow.
What is the best insight for me now? The Knight of Vessels is an adaptable character. He can swim in water, creep over land. He moves and changes depending upon the circumstances that he encounters. This is the best insight for you now. Adapt. You'll no doubt have good days & bad days. Now is time to be gentle with yourself. When you have good days, please enjoy them and put them into your focus, remember how the days smelled, what thoughts are triggered by the smells. It'll make the bad days not so bad.
There are a few things you can do my lovely. It's time to use all your senses to help keep your crispness & focus. Remember to be adaptable, try writing things down, take the good & the bad days. It's time to adjust and adapt to the new situation you're in. You can do this though, says the Knight of Vessels: It'll need some adjustment from what you're already used to, to the slight changes the Queen of Wands says that you need to do going forward. Be kind to yourself in the first instance.
I use the Tarot as a tool for personal insights, focusing particularly on The Wildwood & how messages from the Pagan aspect of our society may actually help us. I hope you enjoy!
What would happen if you focused on the results of your efforts rather than your efforts?
What could happen if you choose to focus on both: The end result and the efforts you put in?
Deciding what to focus on can be tricky. We all need more money, we all want more things, we all want the better things. During these tricky times, it's hard to get the balance right. We focus sometimes on the wrong things, micro manage ourselves into holes we struggle to get out of.
What might happen if we were to focus on two aspects? I suggest focusing on the end goal & how you might get there. Between the two is the bridge, the "how we get there" from where we are now.
What's my main goal? The Guardian
What's my end result? Knight of Bows
What's the way to connect the two? The Hooded Man
The Guardian. The main goal looks a little scary, doesn't he? Well, he does at that. He's meant to be. Your main goal is on the other side of him. The fear you have, manifests as him. Are you afraid of being a success? Believe it or not, that does happen, a lot. He's the Devil, standing before you, teasing, scaring, manipulating you. He's your ego saying "you're not good enough" when you are.
Your goal is to overcome your irrational fear of being successful, of achieving your goal. As an example, me. I can apply plenty of times he's come up in my Tarot career and no doubt, he'll carry on appearing when I'm stopping myself from achieving what I should & what I know I can.
Knight of Bows. This cunning fox is smiling at us. Can you see that? Well, I think he is! He's the result that says : I came, I thought, I feared and I won! Until the next time. Your end result is having a plan, sticking to it and following it through. It about adapting to the situation, being quick of thought enough to leave something behind if it's not working out. It's knowing when it's time to move on.
He's saying be determined, don't anticipate the future, roll with it. Be witty, be quick, take advantage when you can. Try a different approach, don't do it the same way. Go your own way.
The Hooded Man. This is your bridge between the two, the connection method. You can clearly see the lantern, he's living his own way by listening to his higher self. The wren represents that listening part, that's what that little bird is good at. Speaking & giving voice to the quiet soul within. The light beyond the door shows that there's shelter, even in these harsh conditions. He is gaining more wisdom by allowing himself to think, contemplate and process his own thoughts.
You are capable of this yourself you know. We all need time to think about what action we need to take next. Most of us either do not get the time, make the time or care to think. Some of us though, do. It's safe to assume that you do, you're here, reading this after all and I thank you for taking the time to join me.
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America, what will happen when the election is over?
This is a question with so many ramifications, its tricky to answer! What will happen to America after this election?
Watching the American election, or even keeping a slight track on it and you cannot help but ask the question: What will happen once the circus is over? No doubt the circus will find a way to hop on over the UK, it usually does.
When the dust settles, when the clowns have gone home, what will happen then? I asked The Wildwood what might happen.
The first card out was the Three of Arrows. To me, this is saying that some (okay, probably fair to say that half) aren't going to like the final result. America will speak & the loudest, most popular voices will be heard and acted upon. There will be some who will wonder what the heck happened. Well, sorry America, Britain has been there with Brexit. What it means for us, Goddess only knows, it's dragging us around like a ball and chain. What it'll mean for you guys, well, it's going to hurt half of you, whichever one gets into the Oval Office.
The second was Major 17, The Pole Star. This tells me that there's hope, even from the ashes. You've risen from the ashes before, America. Now that the drawn out process is over, it's time to look to the future and to build on the results. There's a whole new future for you to take advantage 0f, to learn from. You just have to decide what your future is going to be like now the results are in.
The third & final was the Page of Bows. To me, this is learning where your passions lie, working the system as it is now, redesigning as you're going. America, you're going to have to adjust, change tact & see which way the political weather is blowing. There's a huge first coming for both America and the United Kingdom, if it goes the way I feel it will. I am astonished that I'm alive to even see it. If it doesn't, my children will be. Whatever the results are, there's change coming America, are you going to embrace it, or try to deny it?
Well America you've got a few changes coming your way. But you knew that. The tell-tale sign here is how you deal with the results, the aftermath and the change that is coming, that was always coming. The important thing is to have hope, look to the future, grab it and seize it with both hands. But you're going to have to change for the future; what you were is no longer serving you.
I used the Wildwood Tarot & I hope that you enjoyed this blog post. I've years sat here, waiting for you to explore & digest with pleasure. Your personal readings are available from this page, if you should wish!
Worrying doesn't solve anything but we can't stop doing it anyway.
If you were to let go of the worry, what might happen?
In some cases, worrying can get worse, in others, nothing changes and in some, things actually improve! We do sometimes wonder when it's all over and done with, what on earth we were worrying for! Though sometimes, we were right to worry and we were just ignoring our guts when we got our warnings.
1/ What worry do you really need to let go of?
2/ What do you really need to keep a hold of?
3/ What might happen as a result?
1/ What worry do you really need to let go of? The Queen of Vessels
This is usually a happy-go-lucky card but we need to look at the shadow side to see what it is we need to let go of. The Queen can be self-sacrificing, she can be bossy & direct & she can just not give up when she really ought to have done long before now. This card here indicates that there's maybe something to give in, but not give up. Stop trying to control everything and just be, so that others can be themselves.
2/ What do you really need to keep a hold of? The Nine of Stones
This card says that tradition is the key here. Note how he's meditating, even whilst holding onto a snake in one hand and a torque bracelet in the other. There's something to be learned by both items, though I doubt I'd be brave enough to hold a snake with my eyes closed! (Or even at all!) However, it's the calmness this gentleman displays that you need to keep a hold of and keep around you.
This is one of the best cards that could have come up. The Green Woman has before her a pool of energy, ideas, muse, thoughts and helpful advice for herself and those around her. It's all yours to start tapping into, but only if the energy you're spending on the worrying is redirected into something far more constructive in your life.
What could happen if you gave up the worry? A lot of things: the energy you're using could be redirected into something far more productive for yourself. Such as replenishing your own intuitive well of ideas, plans & schemes. You could do with keeping a hold of the calmness that you've found, even if things aren't quite as balanced as this image represents.
I hope you've enjoyed my insights and ramblings. To the person that kindly volunteered this question, I hope you are able to let the fear go and tap into the creative well within.
With blessings to you all
p.s. The deck used here is The Wildwood, with images used with permission from Will Worthington. The spread is my own, feel free to use that for yourselves.
Mercury retrograde is nearly over, but what did you learn?
Mercury, the planet of communication, goes direct again on the 22nd. Not a moment too soon! What did you learn through this period of stuck, backwards and jarred communication?
Communication with important, though we don't always know how or what to communicate when Mercury is going backwards in the skies above. We sometimes find out when Mercury goes direct & the answers come, or when we don't hear from someone for a time & we wonder why.
I asked the Tarot, "What was my recent lesson with this Mercury retrograde?"
The negatives from the situation:The Page of Cups
What to take forward: 3 of Pentacles
The positives from this Mercury Rx are interesting. The Knight is one of the dynamic four of the Courts, Knights are energetic, young, impetuous and in this case, the emotional one. He's learning what is acceptable to others, what sits well with him and what doesn't. He's all about the self-learning of his emotional self. He'll stir things up a little just to learn more about himself and others. To me, he is not emotionally trying.
The negatives from this Mercury Rx leave me sad. This Page is a step back from the Knight we have above. The dove near the cup being raised aloft isn't quite letting the Page stroke it and the ships are sailing away. The mermaid might be safer, but I don't feel that she's learned anything of use, except maybe how to get things go. Maybe, in hindsight, that is not quite such a bad thing after all.
What to take forward: now this is interesting. The figures in this card haven't yet worked out how to work together, to play on each other's strengths or pick up the other's weaknesses. At the moment, there's not much co-operation. That may yet come, so there is hope, though it's not going to be a simple walk in the park.
Most of this Mercury Retrograde (Rx) is down to what you've learned emotionally, about yourself & others. Therefore you need to act with some kindness and take a step back. Sometimes, you just need to carry on regardless and others need to accept that about you. They're the ones that need to build a bridge to get over their emotional selves. They, like you, need to work in partnership to bring out the best in everyone. It's not always about them or you, sometimes it is so about others outside of the immediate equation. Hence there has to be a new dynamic created, to get things done. Finally, the question here is: how are you going to make the dynamic work?
I've used my cropped Wizards Tarot by Corrine Kenner for this post, which you can buy from Amazon.
Options are a given right, aren't they? Well, we'd like to think so.
When something happens to us that prevents us from doing what we've enjoyed doing for the majority of our lives, we often ask: What are my options now?
This question has come from a friend, a fellow mother who asks the question after being diagnosed with an illness that will slow her down tremendously: What are my options now? This question can be used in a multitude of situations, the answers & cards though will be unique. Feel free to change the spread offered to suit your own, or I can do it for you.
I chose a three card spread for this, in a triangle shape. This is often easiest work out what will play with each other & what will not. At the top: What do I need to consider? To the bottom left: What do I need to avoid? To the right, What's my next step? More cards can be added to each position as you wish.
What do you need to consider here? The Ace of Vessels says that this is a new emotional beginning for you. This is the time to lay the conventions of the past behind, the preconceived ideas. Take the time to re-learn emotionally what it is you wanted to do with your life. You've the chance now of a new beginning, you don't have to feature convention, you can begin to go your own way. You can take it slow, you can start whenever you like, as slowly as you like.
This is pretty big, so please don't just take my insights here: add your own. The Mirror is about tradition into the hidden depths of knowledge, the unknown & unconscious aspects of our lives. This to me is about not questioning the "why has it happened?" or the "why me?" all the time. Though, I can get that's playing on your mind a lot.
Your energies are better spent in the dealing & healing from what you have, the reflecting. This card shows a figure in the boat, which may be Arthur, on his way to the Isle of Avalon to heal. He cannot question where he is, he's bound, in a coma. This card can also show the question of "What did I do wrong?" coming up all the time. The answer is nothing! If you're going down that road, please go and see your GP, asking to be referred to a counsellor.
This is another big card, but instead of stopping you going over and over the bridge you're trying to cross, it's showing you the other side of your destination. The next step is about how you think, communicate, act. It's all about how you conduct yourself, your goals and aims for what and how you are communicating. What is it you're trying to do when you speak about your condition? Is it to let off steam? Is it to bring the attention of your condition to others? Speak out with an aim, a purpose. It is not enough to just speak, there has to be intent behind it. That intent has to be communicated, spelt out. That might seem daft, but how many times have you heard someone speak and thought: Get to the point, please!
You've changes going on, due in this case to medical. You're being forced to take things at a much gentler pace. You can't go at the previous 100 miles per hour you had before. Trying to carry on as you were will make it worse for you. The cards suggest you slow down, don't reflect too much on the why it happened, or what you did wrong. If you're going to speak out about it, give that voice a purpose, a meaning, an intent. It will help if you make that intent clear in your communications. Decide on what your intent is and stick with it. It's time to put some meaning behind your words.