Let’s Talk : Expressing My Authentic Self?

It’s time to see how you might express your authentic self. 

There’s a lot to do now that we’re well & truly into the New Year, how can you best express your authentic self?

Being true to yourself is often a way that people trip up with things. There are so many pressures on us from others; their expectations & their noise drown out our own self-perceptions. We sometimes struggle to get our own thoughts to focus on the positive & the future. It can take a time to get them to do that, such is the loudness of others.

There’s no such thing as normal, everyone is weird! Honestly, we all are! Celebrating it means being a little brave or sometimes, a lot brave. It’s about trusting ourselves to our very core & displaying that trust.  Sometimes that comes over arrogant or over-confident, but it need not be the case.

authentic self cards

The Spread & Cards

Card 1: what does my authentic self, look like? 2 – The Seer

Card 2: what’s the worst way I can express this? The 2 of Arrows

Card 3: what’s the best way I can express this? 21 – The World Tree

The Reading: 

What does my authentic self, look like? The Seer is intuitive, she’s not great at speaking up, but she knows more than she’s letting on with things. She trusts her intuition & is willing to guide people but will only tell you what she thinks if you’re brave enough to ask for it. Though, you may not like some of the answers that come back.

What’s the worst way I can express this?  The 2 of Swords hints that being indecisive, unsure of your thoughts or expressing yourself badly is not going to be the best way to achieve this.

What’s the best way I can express this? The World Tree is a complicated message. How can I express The World Tree? Act like I’m entitled? Well, the whole World seems to be doing that, I don’t want to jump on that particular bandwagon. I do feel that this says to keep changing things up. I like how the tree shows all four seasons, the tree changes. Everyone changes. Perhaps the best way to express this is to do just that: keep on changing, growing, exploring.

Conclusion: 

The World Tree is the card I’m focusing on here: this is the most complicated card to have come up in the last position, but for one of the best reasons, it’s going to have to sit with me for a little while so I can get it and I have a feeling that it’s going to be a message I’m going to hear over & over this year.

I need to keep on progressing, changing & guiding. I ask you: So do you, don’t you? Think about it.

You can find & book me right here.

 

I’ve used The Wildwood (with permission) & you can buy that directly from Will’s site. I love comments, replies & other insights on what YOU drew! Please DO leave a comment, I’d love that!

Hello 2017, I’ve Been Expecting You.

2017 is finally here, so let’s hello to the New Calendar Year.

As this year begins, let’s set our intentions for what we want to achieve.

It’s only been a week or two, but what kind of start has it been for you? We said “Hello” to 2017 as it handed us a blank 365-blank book for us to write our life stories into. I hope no-one else is holding your pen, by the way!

I’ve shared this spread from Joanna Powell Colbert’s Gaian Tarot site, with permission.

The Cards: 

Hello 2017

1. What do I leave behind in the Old Year? ~ 3 of Arrows

2. What do I open up to in the New Year? ~ 6 of Arrows

3. Key Opportunity of the New Year ~ Major 18, The Moon on Water

4. Key Challenge of the New Year ~ Major 21, The World Tree

5. Hidden concern (pull from bottom of the deck) ~ Knight of Bows

6. Deep Wisdom / Advice from God/dess (pull from middle of the deck) ~ Major 0, The Wanderer

7. Key Theme of the New Year ~ Major 10, The Wheel

If you keep records of your readings, the last card (#7) could become the first card (#1) in next year’s spread. Something for you & I to do next year!?

New year

The Reading:

What do I leave behind? The 3 of Arrows suggests that I leave behind the heartache & lies from the previous year. Having my heart & my head out of balance and kilter isn’t good for anyone.

What do I open up to in the New Year? The 6 of Arrows suggests that I open up to just taking one day at a time, taking one step at a time. When I look back at last year, I realise it whizzed by.

What is my Key Opportunity of the New Year? Major 18, The Moon on Water is rather reflective, the path before me isn’t clear. It’s already sent me some wonderful things for this year, nothing though is set out in stone, it’s not a set path. So, follow my own way.

What is my Key Challenge of the New Year?  Major 21, The World Tree suggests that I take the chances as they appear when they appear. They may not come around to me again, so I’m to go with the flow, the ebb & tide.

What is my hidden concern? The knight of bows is versatile, entrepreneurial. My concern is that I need to be going to need to keep my eyes open so often business wise that I’ll miss the other things going on before me.

What’s the deep Wisdom / Advice from Goddess? Major 0, The Wanderer says to trust me and leave the past behind, just go for it. Be brave, trust myself & go with the path that I see before me, even if I can’t rationalise it with logic. Trust the connection I have with my higher self & soar!

What’s the Key Theme of the New Year? The Wheel, Change. Changes can be small. They can be big. They can be acting in confidence when you don’t feel it, they can be trusting you when everyone else thinks you’re bonkers. Trust me, I get that one regularly! However, knowing that there’s magic & connection all around, that there are changes afoot, helps you to embrace what’s going on around you.

Conclusion: 

There are changes afoot this year, so now I just need to work my way through it. The signs one might expect aren’t there: there’s so many ways & options to me this coming year, that it can go wherever and however I want it to. The possibilities are entirely down to how I play the cards as they’re dealt to me. 

 

I hope you’ve enjoyed this first proper post of the new year, welcome to the year of change!  To book your reading, just follow this link

2016 : Goodbye & What The Heck!?

Goodbye 2016, you’ve been a rollercoaster of a year!

Whilst we say goodbye to 2016, I have to ask via the Tarot: What the heck did we learn?!

 

Include mortality (Bowie, Leonard Cohen), greed, boundaries, political changes (Trump & May) & a spread to say goodbye! 2016 is a 9 year, Hooded Man, Woodwose – 9 of Bows, introspection becoming reality, next year is a year of The Wheel, Change….

Changes can be small & that word instantly brings to mind this song from David Bowie. The changes can be anything, from doing something healthier to changing an attitude.

The Reading:

The Major card for the coming year is The Wheel, but before we engage with that type of change, I am going to ask the cards just what we were supposed to learn with 2016?

I drew 3 cards to focus on the lessons learnt.
Card 1 is for The Best Part of 2016: The Ace of Arrows: The Breath of Life
Card 2 is for What The Heck did we learn from 2016: Major 11 ~ The Woodward
Card 3 is for Why We Had To Learn from 2016: Major 17 ~ The Pole Star

The Best Part of 2016, say the cards, is the Ace of Arrows. It was clear that people wanted to know that their feelings weren’t being ignored anymore. Their frustration was clear. We can’t ignore it, it was too loud to just sweep it under the carpet. Now it has been heard, it has to be dealt with. The message was received, even if it’s not totally understood.

The What The Heck part from 2016 was when the need to protect was felt. Everyone has a different way of making that happen. How it was undertaken, how it was implemented, some would think that there was something rather potent in that cup the Woodward is holding. With the political results in one hand, the facts of implementing it in the other, it’s going to be a tricky road to walk. He’ll be the Card of the Year for 2018, but that’s a full 12 months in the offing: Or is it?

The Why We Had To Learn from 2016 is The Pole Star. Here, I think the message is somewhat clearer than the previous card was. The Pole Star is all about hopes & dreams, which is what the lesson from 2016 is about. People wanted to know that their hopes & dreams weren’t being ignored, they want the chance to make their dreams come true. We had to work out a way for our dreams to come out, to materialise, to manifest.

My Conclusion:

2016 had a lot to teach us about our dreams, about creating the circumstances in which they come forward. What has been built up in the last 30 years, say since Thatcher, needed to come down. It was threatened in my youth, but now in my mid years, it’s time to tear it down, change it around. The time of change is coming, but the changes can be a mixture of subtle ones & huge, massive ones. Whatever the New Year holds, we had to set the groundwork for change this year.

So, to 2016, I say “Good-bye!”. I turn to 2017 and say: “You can’t do worse, so bring it on!”  If you dare!!

Yuletide In The Wildwood

It’s Yuletide & today I explore the darker side of Yule, the reason The Hermit comes out at this time of year.

What part of our dark side do we need to work on this Yuletide?

This is the first of the Fire Festivals of the new Pagan Year, the last one being Samhain itself. The theme came from the Tarot Blog Hop (which I forgot to sign up for, d’oh!) but thought I’d “join in” unofficially anyway!

 

YuleTide Spread

If you signed up for my newsletter, you’d have seen the spread I’m about to do ahead of this post.

The Reading;

Pick a card for the number 1 spot to represent YOU. It can be a card of the season or one that is most like you. Then give the rest of the deck a good shuffle & decorate the tree!
Number 2 is: What’s the first aspect I need to work on?
Number 3 is: What’s the best way to tackle it?
Number 4 is: What’s the worst way to tackle it?
Number 5 is: What’s the unseen understanding I need here?

Card 1: this comes from Corrine Kenner’s deck,  Tarot of the Gods and was Neptune in Pisces. This combines two Majors for me (Hanged Man & Moon) and I chose this deck because if those cards came up,  I know I’m going to want to pay more attention to them!

Card 2 is the 8 of Vessels,  suggesting that my pent up emotions need releasing.  I need to let them go and return the negative ones back to the river of  life. This is only the first aspect the cards suggest I deal with this Yuletide.

Card 3 is Major 12,The Mirror,  which suggests that I spend some time in contemplation and work through these emotions,  slowly. The Heron in this card is significant.  Heron’s in the shamanic suggest that you need to ground yourself more,  apply a little more restraint and that uncomfortable situations require you to be more watchful so you can quickly grasp the improvements and move on.  This bird is a Jack of all trades and loves experiences.

Card 4 is the Five of Vessels, Ecstasy.  This is saying that the worst way to handle this is to just carry on regardless. I need to not just go about life,  pretending that I’m not feeling as I do, or why.

Card 5 is 9 of Bows,  Respect. The unseen understanding is boundaries,  respect the other person’s way of doing things (even if they have no respect for others) but set the respect for myself too. That’s been the biggest thing, I feel.  It’s not been set,  enforced or tackled.  Oh,  arse. Like I really want to do that in this situation.

Conclusion:

I know exactly what this is going on about and in truth I’m not surprised it’s shown up at this time of year, given what’s going on with other things in my life. However, this does gives me a perspective to deal with something that has been bothering me for a few weeks, that I’ve not been wanting to deal with. The cards say I ought to deal with it though.  Oh,  well!  I hope you’ve enjoyed my shadow Yuletide reading and blog post. Guess I’d better pull up my big girl knickers and get on with this. Just like everyone else does!

Thanks for reading!  I look forward to  your visits in 2017. 

Let’s Talk : Improving Material Gain

Let’s be honest, we all feel we need to improve our financial situation occasionally. 

From time to time, the material matter just isn’t flowing the way we want or need them to be & we feel the need to improve them. 

There are various spells that claim to improve the fortunes of those that follow them, I tend to find that hard work & being paid for what that work is worth is the best way to balance the financial tables. Some people work more than one job, others create diversity, set up their own business, work for themselves.

So let’s ask the Tarot what steps we need to take to improve our material situation. I use the word material because money isn’t the only method of payment, though it’s apparently what makes the World go around. I’m not so sure, but it sure makes life far more comfortable, don’t you agree??

The Cards & Their Meanings

Card 1: What energies do I need to bring to this endeavour? Ten of Stones ~ Home
Card 2: What do I need to remember about this endeavour? Major 6 ~ The Forest Lovers
Card 3: What is my next step? Ten of Arrows ~ Instruction

The Ten of Stones is the first card up. If you enlarge the image you can maybe see two carvings in the stonework in the gateway of this house. If not, trust me, they’re there! This house exists because of the balance that has been created. There’s the thinking, doing, creating, fixing, growing, clearing, sweeping of this house that makes it a home. There’s a lot of potential in this house but it’s not just down to one set of energies. Now, don’t get me wrong when I say that the masculine & feminine energies are in balance here: that doesn’t mean that there’s one of each gender in the house or even two people in the house! A woman is just as capable of fixing things as a man is at cleaning & keeping house. I’m talking about the energies here, not the people wielding the energies. Tap into both sets of energies here to gain your balance.

Major 6 ~ The Forest Lovers, hints that you need to encounter self-confidence & love about this situation. That’s not to say forget about it but focus on something else instead of “making money” all the time. Enjoy the why when you can; that doesn’t have to cost very much if anything at all. Go for a medicine walk (a walk with the intention of creating thinking space) or get out into nature, no matter the weather and let the elements whip around you. This card is about connecting with our inner self as well as those that are around us. It’s not hard to do, but we forget to do it. The silver birch trees are still there, leaf devoid as they are. Can you identify silver birch or even birch trees in general in your local park? Do you take shelter in a yew tree when the rain really hammers down?

The Ten of Arrows is the last card, a reminder that others can see things that we cannot; that others may have more knowledge & experience than we do. Getting their advice is important in this situation, say the cards. This card shows a father and a son in a teaching / instruction / practise situation. Does this hint to listen to our family elders? Yes. Does this hint to listen to other elders? Well, if they’ve got the knowledge that we do not, then yes. It doesn’t matter who is teaching us (though being honest, it does matter. We have to like & respect them, to begin with) it is the message that they have that’s the important thing here.

Conclusion: 

Keep a focus on what’s important in regards to your home & hearth. The message here I feel is to not over-extend yourself or stretch beyond your reach. Look after yourself but try to focus on the job, not the end results. Balance is the key: don’t exert beyond more than is coming in (though that is easy to do). Do the scary thing: LOOK at your finances! Watch them daily! It’s scary when you do that, but then you start to get control over what’s going out when it’s going out & how.

The deck in question is The Wildwood Tarot, with the images being shared with permission. 

Let’s Talk : Bettering Our Chances

What can we do to better our chances?

We all get knock backs, but how do you better your chances for the next time we strive to achieve a goal or dream?

Chances come and go. Getting told that you were “close but no cigar” is bound to upset anyone. However frustrating it is, we need to continue to charge forwards, one step at a time. The strength of the character we have inside rises up when we’re told no. Some get aggressive, some get creative & dig deeper. It’s this digging deeper aspect that I appreciate. When the going gets tough, the tough get going, as the song goes.

So, what can the cards advise us about bettering out chances?

chancesLet’s look at the cards!

Position 1: What might be tripping me up? – 3 of Arrows
Position 2: Why is it tripping me up? – 7 of Vessels
Position 3: How best can I jump this hurdle? – Page of Stones

3 of Arrows : your heart maybe wasn’t  in the situation, to begin with.  Whilst it looked good on paper, something rang true in the heart that caused a conflict. It’s not easy to put a finger on it,  but the spark that she at the start was noticeable when it went out.  Take heart,  something will come to you that is better emotionally suited to you.

7 of Vessels : okay,  so now you’re gutted and wishing you could go back to the moment the spark died.  That’s not quite how it works,  you do need to mourn,  work out why & say goodbye to it.  That might sound daft but look at the image.  It’s time to say goodbye & move on,  lesson having been learnt.

Page of Stones : This card is the quiet one in the corner, watching everything going on around  them. This lynx is the quiet,  observant big cat. Pay attention to what is going on physically around you. Careful consideration will redress any balance that a lack of forethought has caused.  It’s time to redress the balance, keep things down to earth and factual,  not virtual.

Conclusion: 

You can’t change the past, so don’t try. Just let it go, and no, you don’t have to be Elsa! Hanging onto the “what did I do wrong” thoughts just implies that you DID do something wrong. You probably didn’t do anything wrong, the emotional connection between you just wasn’t there, for some reason. So, onwards. Watch out for that in interviews, try to adjust your responses to suit. Let the emotional attachment go so you don’t have it hanging around your neck during your next interview / chance / opportunity. Be yourself: everyone else is taken!

You’re welcome to adjust this spread or use it for your own gain, that’s fine! I’ve used The Wildwood Tarot cards (as always!) but if you’d like your own reading or you’d like a gift voucher issued for Christmas, you can book that right here

Let’s Talk About Boundaries & Action

Boundaries are the things we put up to protect ourselves & those we love.

They’re also a pain in the rear end to enforce at times, complicated to work out & sometimes hard to explain.

What can you do when people continually ignore the boundaries that you need to have in place? What’s to be done when the people in question happen to be close family?

This question came from Twitter but it can apply to anyone! “My dad wants to control me, even though I’m a bill paying, adulting adult! Boundaries aren’t working, what now?” Let’s see what the Tarot offers as advice.

wp-1479213621927.jpgThe Reading:

What aspect do I need to understand? The Green Woman
What can I avoid doing about my situation? 8 of Arrows
What can I actively do about my situation? 3 of Stones

What aspect do I need to understand? The Green Woman. This card is interesting as she’s looking at us with her milky cauldron. There are a lot of ideas & things going on here, but I sense that this is the more controlling side of her that’s at play here from this family member. This lady isn’t being magnanimous, generous or glorious. This is the energy of the Green Woman that’s not flowing the way it should be. So the issue isn’t with our querent, it’s with their father.

What can I avoid doing in my situation? 8 of Arrows. Usually, this card is about battling through, clearing the obstacles one at a time. But this card is in the “avoid” position, so continuing on and battling through this doesn’t seem to be the way forward now. Arrows link to the thoughts & communications. I sense that blockages, excuses and reasons for their actions are a penny-a-dozen.

What can I actively do about my situation? 3 of Stones. The stones link to home, job & this hints at teamwork, connecting to the idea you’ve had before about what you’d do if this didn’t stop. That self-advice is needed now, so feel free to follow through on it. Get creative with the solutions, do things “outside” the box. Or on the inside, if you’re a Whovian! 😉

Conclusion:

boundariesUnderstand that this situation isn’t down to you or your viewpoints, it’s down to how they’re not handling their inner Green Woman. They’re being beyond caring and encouraging. They don’t see the boundaries as they’re blinkered by what they see is “good parenting”. You can continue to struggle on if you wish, but the way you phrased your question and with the 8 of Arrows, suggests that isn’t really an option. The creative aspect draws one more question: How?

The 6 of Bows comes out, which is a card of abundance, patience & find ways to allow the well-being within you to flow. Notice how this little coppice looks so homely? Perhaps that is the key you need here: a place of your own to give yourself & the parent, some space to exist.

I’ve used The Wildwood Tarot (with permission) in this blog post & I thank you for joining me. If you’d like your own reading, or to buy a Gift Certificate, you can do so on this page.

Tarot Blog Hop : Advice for the Future

Looking at the past for the future, the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop

Welcome to the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop of 2016, where we’re looking at the past to help with the future.

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Welcome to my input for the Samhain Tarot Blog Hop. Whether you’ve come from Stella’s link at USGames, or you’re doing the traditional widdershins (backwards) and arriving here from Alison Coals’ link, I say hello!

This year, I set the theme of the Sa-veen Blog Hop to “get advice from the ancestors for the future”. Fifteen of us rose to this challenge, and I hope you’re able to come along with your choice of seasonal drink in hand, to join us on on a journey of what our ancestors could advise for us.

As the veil thins, it’s easier at this time of year to talk with those that walked before us, to ask them questions. Sometimes, we get a curve ball, a left hook reply. Other times we get a watery reply, their voices and replies lost to the harmony of distances and time. I created a 6 card spread to try and help cut through the noise which can happen. You’re free to use, adapt & change this to suit your needs.

 

Samhain Spread
Samhain Spread

1 Use this position to represent your ancestor

2 What do they suggest will help you in your situation?

3 What do they suggest will not help you in your situation?

4 What should you carry on doing?

5 What should you stop doing?

6 What’s the final message from your chosen Ancestor?

 

I didn’t choose one ancestor, I chose the whole lot. I know there are spirits in there that I don’t like, but there are plenty who I do (or did) and I want to hear their collective voices. The Ancestor was the card I chose for the central card: thankfully, the Wildwood has this card instead of The Hierophant.

The Reading

1 Your ancestor – The Ancestor
This is the card I’ve chosen to represent all the ancestors that have come before. It’s rather fitting, isn’t it? My specific question was: What do I need to do to make my business a success?

wp-1477776893947.jpg2 What do they suggest will help you in your situation? – The Ten of Bows
I feel what they say here is to take charge & be responsible for what I’ve put into motion. Finish the job at hand, don’t skimp, don’t cut corners, don’t pass Go or collect £200 until I’ve done all the tasks I’m supposed to do. There’s some things I’ve set in motion that need addressing.

3 What do they suggest will not help you in your situation? – The Ten of Stones
Hiding in the home, not doing the things that need doing. Retreating inside myself is part of the issue I have had since the moment I was born. I do at times like to retreat away from life, this time though I’m being advised to not do that.

4 What should you carry on doing? – King of Bows
In this card I see a lot of snakes, vying for the top position. I’ve never read this card as “reach for the stars” from S Club 7, but more of a Fleetwood Mac “Go Your Own Way”. There’s a snake at the bottom of the pile, slithering away from the others. Hin is leaving them to their own devices, they’re going their own way. I rather like Fleetwood Mac over S Club 7. 😉

5 What should you stop doing? – Major 10, The Wheel
Stop chopping and changing what you’re doing, how you’re doing it. Small changes are great, but you’re doing it too often. You’ve got your niche, please follow it.

6 What’s the final message from your chosen Ancestor? Four of Vessel
The Four of Vessels has to be one of my least favourite card in the deck. I believe this time it’s asking me to not sit back and wait for things to happen to me. I need to engage, I need to find the excitement in life, it’s not going to come and land on my lap. Well, drat. I was hoping the answer would just drop into my lap. I do not know where to look for the answers I need. So I must keep looking, searching and engaging.

Conclusion

My ancestors are basically saying to take care of the responsibilities I have, don’t start looking for new ones, stick to the path I’ve started to carve for myself. Make the changes I see are needed but don’t disengage from life, love or the path I’m on. For the first time in a long time, I’m quite happy with the cards and their message. What do you see? I’d love for you to share!

I am about to hop off to see what Alison Coals has to offer to us. I look forward to you sharing any results from this spread via reply. Thanks for stopping by!

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Tarot Blog Hop : Samhain Master List

This is the Master Link for the Samhain 2016 Master Blog Hop.

Use this if you get lost in the blog or you need to pick up a particular hop to carry on where you had to leave it.

1/ Morgan Drake Eckstein ~ http://gleamingsfromthedawn.blogspot.com/2016/10/talking-with-honored-dead.html
2/ Joy Vernon ~ http://joyvernon.com/Blog/looking-to-the-past-to-guide-the-future/
3/ Chloe McCracken ~ http://www.innerwhispers.co.uk/advice-from-ancestors/
4/ Jay Cassels ~ http://metaphysicalangels.co.uk/tbh5
5/ Deirdre Doran ~ http://thewillowpathtarot.com/2016/10/31/tarot-blog-hop-asking-advice-of-our-ancestors
6/ Karen Sealey ~ https://pureblessedtarot.wordpress.com/2016/10/31/dead-and-unburied/
7/ Olivia Destrades ~ http://firstearthtarot.blogspot.com/2016/10/samhain-blog-hop-guidance-from-our.html
8/ Boglárka Kiss ~ http://shadow-work.blogspot.com/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-samhain-2016.html
9/ Meniscus Tarot ~ http://meniscustarot.co.uk/by-gad/
10/ Stella Passer ~ http://www.usgamesinc.com/tarotblog/tarotbloghop-ancestors-advice/
11/ Louise Underhill ~ http://www.priestesstarot.co.uk/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-advice-for-the-future
12/ Alison Coals ~ http://alisonsalembic.blogspot.com/2016/10/tarot-blog-hop-samhuin-2016.html
13/ Ania M ~ http://aniam.co.uk/blog/alas
14/ Arwen Lynch Poe ~  http://tarotbyarwen.com/18911/wake-the-dead/ 

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