Well, why not? Should it be someone else that travels your life journey? The "Why Me?" question implies something of a defeatist attitude.
We all get down from time to time and we all think: Why me?! occasionally. Staying there can cause more problems than turning it around from "Why me?" to "Try me!" My children certainly do not like me when I turn to them and say: "try it" when they're pushing the boat out. They don't like it either when they're whining and my reaction is to "Go and try it."
There's a brilliant meme that's been hitting Facebook and I think it ties very well into answering this question.
It doesn't have to be the Devil that asks, though it is usually someone we don't like, adding more to our plate when frankly, we can do without that kind of nonsense. The boss, for example, or customers who know something is broken at five o'clock, but they've had the files and the system update for two days.
During this school holiday (which is seven weeks long!) the chances are it's going to be the kids, turning my hair more grey than usual. That's okay, they're my kids, I'm the mum, I gave them that right when they were born to do that. There are, however, boundaries.
And that is where the "Why me?" phrase comes from: when we don't or cannot apply a boundary, or say: enough already! Why do we feel like that? I think it's because we're afraid sometimes of telling the boss, No. We're not wanting to offend someone new when they're clearly not going to fit in, though it's a word that we have used on small people and because of small people from the moment that they're born. It's a word we use to keep people safe, confine them or set boundaries.
So, what can the Tarot tell us about the question, Why Me?
- If not you, then who else? ~ Three of Bows
- What else do you need to consider? ~ Queen of Vessels
- This is, Why Me? ~ Two of Stones
With my daughter's help, we have three cards for you. The first asks you: If it's not you, then who else could do this? The Three of Bows comes out to remind you that actually, you have a choice! Look at the paths here, there are three and even if The Seer is the one in the hooded robe, you're being given a choice. Don't be defeatist about it. You can choose to either do it or not. Rise to the challenge, or pick another. The Queen of Vessels comes up as the next card, reminding you that you need to be wise in your responses, determined in your results and whilst you can give in, you cannot give up. This salmon will return to her spawning grounds, she will get there and she'll swallow some hazelnuts for nourishment. She's not going to give up, but she may give in to conserve her strength when she needs it. The Two of Stones comes out to say: It's you because there's a lesson here to learn. It's about setting and enforcing boundaries (as I mentioned above) and standing your ground.
I hope you've enjoyed my little blog post this week, enjoy yourself and remember, it's not always you, sometimes it's others. Don't be defeatist and feel free to whisper back to the Devil: I Am, I Can, I Will!
I've used the Wildwood Tarot here, which Will Worthington drew. The spread and the ramblings are my own. Thanks for stopping by! Private consultations are available via my booking page.
I asked for questions for the blog and this one came up. I'm sure everyone in this profession has been asked this one: Are they my Soul mate?!
A soul mate can be a very loose term for something that is often very different from what is actually being asked.
Firstly, let me please define soul mate. It's a noun that says: Soul mates are people who are ideally suited to us as either friends or romantic partner.
Secondly, let me offer another phrase that will substitute soul mates about 50% of the time (from my experience); Life Partner.
The two are not always the same, in my experience. If you're having to ask a Tarot Reader, psychic or someone else in this profession, a question that goes along the lines of "My life with X is hell, are we soul mates?" the answer is very likely to be very negative. If your life is hell, then by the definition of the first point above, your souls are not aligned, therefore, they're not a soul mate. If your life is hell and they're a long-term partner, you may want to change tact and work through it or let the other person go, walk away. As per the first point, your best friend can be a soul mate, but you're not necessarily going to marry them!
@Mitzy12 on Twitter asked this question and I wanted to clarify what my definition of a soul mate was before I shared her question with you and the Wildwood's answer. The question was: They say everybody has a soul mate, do we have to search for that person or do they somehow cross our path ? I love Mitzy's question: it's open-ended and from that, I designed a 3 card spread to answer it.
Do I have to search for my soul mate? The Blasted Oak came out. To me, this indicates a negative reply: chances are you'll meet them as they fall out of a tree! Okay, that might be a little Back To The Future in reply but don't discount it. Meeting a significant other when you're down on your luck happens a lot more than you ever get to hear. They might not be a significant other right away, but if they can come and help you out during your worst moments of life and stick around, they're worth keeping.
Do I already know my soul mate? The Eight of Arrows was our answer here, hinting that they're there, shining a light for you, encouraging you on. Only people who already know you who are in your life would encourage you to keep going through the internal storms that can rage inside. That's what real friends, proper soul mates do.
What kind of soul mate are they? The three of Stones comes out, with the keyword that I'll pay attention to; Creativity. This to me, isn't a romantic soul mate, they're the friends that inspire you, help you and encourage you to grow, change, adapt. They're the friends that will lay down with you on the darkest of days, or skip along next to you singing: "Someone's going to get it" whilst swinging a cricket bat at their side! (Figuratively speaking)
Overall, these cards indicate that your soul mate isn't the romantic kind, they're the lifelong friends that will be there for years to come. You may find that they come through for you whilst you're in a dark moment. It is in those moments, we learn who our friends really are whilst we learn who we are.
Feel free to use my spread and draw your own cards, learn about yourself and others who are in your life. I'd love to see some of the cards you draw on this subject so please do reply and share!
After my trust and faith in humanity was let down recently, I drew the Three of Stones to work out why. Breathe, woman!
It's quite easy to get sucker punched when you get a curve ball thrown at you. What happened earlier in the week was my fault, I've learnt that. Seems I always learn the hard way.
I tend not to pay attention to things, or my higher self, when I'm "in the moment". I should listen to myself, I really DO give great advice, even if I'm not so great at following it through. Earlier this week, that cost me but you know, it's a hard lesson learnt, it didn't harm anyone or anything (beyond my ego) and it taught me to have better processes and steps in place before I undertake a reading. That, I can improve on.
I was as annoyed as heck (still am, but I'm finding my Zen on that) and it disturbed my sleep. Anyone who knows me knows I can sleep for all the tea in China and the heather in Scotland. Rise me up before my 9 hours, and I'm a Dragon from the depths of Hell. Even my kids know that! (As well they should!)
To ground myself, I looked through all 78 cards to ask: What do I need to learn here. The 3 of Stones caught my eye via the images on my laptop, and that was that.
The first thought I had, was "Breathe!" then "That was a quick, hard lesson, wasn't it? Now, sort it out so it won't happen again!". Spirit guides don't tend to mess around. I tend to get clients who need straight answers, a motivational kick, a final reminder. I needed one myself and my spirit guides were spot on. As always. Maybe this client will do as he was asked, but that little voice within says that he won't. Regardless, I've had my lesson and now I've shored that aspect of my business up, it's time to move on and get on with life. I connected within myself for my true message on this front.
What do you need to connect into this week? What do your guides say when you think of an aspect that you're facing? If you'd like help with that, I'm right here.
Back from a great fresh air holiday, I investigate what energies are around myself and mine as we end one chapter and work out what comes next.
It's great to get away and relax. It becomes essential when you can't see the woods for the trees. It also helps you refocus and reassess the energies around you. Are you heading in the right direction? Are you happy with where you are? If not, what are you going to do about it? We had some changing news upon our return home from a holiday. It was anticipated, but still, unwelcome.
So, now that things are going to change (we will make it a change for the better!) I've asked the Tarot what energies are around us at the moment and these are the cards I drew.
On the left, we have the Three of Arrows. This is the positive energies around at the moment. Hmm.... jealousy being positive? I wonder how? It could be that the energy of being jealous is normal, that we're to embrace it and let the thoughts flow. That's... interesting.
The second card represents the negative energies around us at the time. It's the Wren, the little voice that sings in the depths of Winter but it's often the voice of reason. However, with the emotions of jealously flowing, are we listening? Or are we listening to the wrong voices? It's a possibility, but there are a few that we need to listen to, everyone else, whilst most likely well-meaning, ought not to be listened to. Like advice, you can ignore it if it doesn't fit.
The last card is the Green Man and represents further energies to embrace. It comes up as the final advice card for energies to embrace. The Green Man can be quite forthright, vindictive but he can be empowering, guiding, a no-nonsense kind of approach. I can surmise who might fill in that role, and it's not just one person.
What energies do you see in these cards? Do you see more positives in the Three of Arrows? Do you see more negatives in the Page of Arrows? Feel free to comment, I love comments and talking Tarot!I've used The Wildwood Tarot here for the reading.
The week commencing 16th December 2013 shows us that the Devil is within the creative detail, but show yourself some respect.
As Yuletide and Christmas fast approach, we have a reminder from the Tarot about the Devil is in the creative detail, but to show ourselves the respect we each deserve. Here's how I came to that line of thought.
The Devil in the RWS is the Guardian in The Wildwood. The skeleton of the white bear is meant to be scary. Getting caught into a downward spiral that The Devil can cause, has it's scary effects on our waking lives. Think drink, drugs, stealing and you've got the idea of the dangers of this card. However, the Devil can have it's uses. He can cause us to think again, to look "beyond" the figure before us to the cave (our destination) beyond.
The Three of Stones shows a lady connecting to nature, her feet have become roots, reconnecting her to the ground from which we all return at some point. I love the look on her face, serene, calm. She's calm enough to allow the creative muses to strike.
The final card on this story board is the Nine of Bows, with the Woodwose coming at us in a very aggressive manner. The fact that he's acting angry could well be that we're not respecting his boundaries, or our own. Now that Jupiter has gone direct, finding and keeping our boundaries is going to mean a change in attitude.
Reading these three out in the line (as shown above) is how I came across the Devil being in the detail. Can you do all the planning and preparation until you're walking around half dead? Being creative can be great, at this time of year, that's almost called for, but allow yourself the quiet time. The respect comes from lots of different directions, but most of all, it must come from yourself. You can ask for help you know, without losing your self-respect and your sanity!
So, this week get the help you need, before you end up like the Guardian here, half dead and worn out. Enjoy the festivities! There will be one more story board post before Christmas hits and a Blog Hop post on Saturday. Enjoy!The deck I've used is as always, The Wildwood which is illustrated by Will Worthington and created by the brilliant Mark Ryan and John Matthews.
It's Party Time! Oh, wait, this is Tuesday, not a Friday. Does The Wildwood know what day of the week it is? I doubt it and even if it did, its message is applied to any day of the week.
Today, we're reminded to be thankful for friends, be joyous in the bond that they provide, for however long they choose to provide it and for however long you choose to accept it.
We meet people along the journey of life. Some we're with forever, family, childhood friends, some we meet at school, then depart ways. Others we meet and stick with us through college, university, courting, marriage, child-birth, the children growing. We meet people along various stages of this path, some help us through, some help us out of situations. Each time, we make a friend, we find reasons to be joyful, hopeful, happy. Happiness is a moment, it's not a destination, it's the journey we're on where we find the happiness, not actually to point Z.
I have heard some fantastic news today, that a friend has given birth to a little girl, 7lb 12oz today just before lunch time. This is great news and certainly something to celebrate! And there's another set of twins to come, never mind the little lady I am carrying!
So today, be thankful and grateful for what you can be thankful and grateful for. And if you can find some joy today, be it in a mug of coffee, some time to yourself, a sneaky biscuit or two just for you, the cat or pet snuggling up to you, take it and be joyful.
Today we're joined by the Three of Vessels and it comes to us with the keyword of "Joy". It's a brilliant card for a Monday, especially today.
For me, this is a card that says "celebrate life", "enjoy the company of others" and lots of other good feelings. It's almost got a carnival feel about it and as we start heading towards the "silly season", I suspect it will come up a few more times before the Gregorian calendar changes to take us into another numbered year.
What does this card indicate to you today? Beyond what I have listed above, I also see this as being able to embrace love, friendship, celebrate the achievements of life and being able to appreciate the fulfilment that comes with working in a group or a small team.
Do you feel the love? (Now I have Elton John's, "Can you feel the love tonight?" going through my head.) If you don't feel the love, why not? You can and ought to give yourself permission to be fulfilled and to experience joy! Be strong, stoical. Understand that life is full of challenges, trials and tribulations as well as having its blessings and gifts. These things come in waves, like buses (they come in 3's!) so if you're not feeling it now, I hope you do soon!
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Today's card comes to us and the keyword for today is "Jealousy". I was pondering this last night as I wrote it up and "envious" is another word I think that could be applied to this card. It is also the second "3" I've pulled out in two days.
This is not just the heart and the mind not agreeing, disagreeing, being on different wave lengths, it's also about not coveting what and whom you cannot have. That can include skills, possessions, understandings, a calmness. It can be anything to which you attribute being jealous or envious.
If this were to come up in the middle of a reading, what might you say about it? As a crossing card of the significator (central card) it can indicate that the card beneath is coveted by someone else, that their jealousy is affecting you. Or your jealousy is affecting them and you. It depends on how it comes out, but this is one of the few cards in the deck that has so many connotations, they're hard to list.
As a card on its own, it can relate to you being jealous or having people jealous of you. Which way around is it for you today? If you're jealous of others, why? Do you really want what they have? Or do you want the success that the object in question represents?? Is it more a case of being envious than jealousy?
Today, I am slightly envious of a friend who is having twins. You can clearly see her babies move around. Whilst I am not seeing my baby do "an alien" on me, I can feel her move, so I am not worried. Am I envious or jealous of anything else? Not as I post this blog entry, but we'll see what comes up through the day. Come and reply, let me know how this card manifests for you today!
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Today we have a card I've not drawn for a year and a day. That card is the Three of Bows, with the keyword of Fulfilment. It last came up on the 11th of November 2011.
When this card came up, I had decided to put my name into the hat for TABI Chairman. Boy, a year has passed since then, where's the time gone?! Have I been fulfilled in that time? Yes, but hind-sight is always 20-20: There are things that could have been done better, that's a part of life. But there are two path ways here and I'm being bid to enter the gateway. I recall now the words of the Beech Tree: Cross the threshold and meet the challenge head on. Have I the energy for such a task?? If I were not pregnant, I might say "hell yeah!" but I know what will happen when I have this baby. I however have a decision to make, do I not? Or a pathway to choose. I feel it's a bit like: Damned if I do, damned if I do not: like the doors in the movie, Labyrinth. Does it really matter what path I choose? One has to be chosen.
The message within the book says that nourishment from a spiritual source gives inner security and joy. Goals and desires are reached, making life rich with emotional scrutiny and a sense of completion.
Have you ever fired a long-bow? I have. I got rather good at it, even if it was a composite. I know other friends of mine over the years have, some still do regularly. To get the best out of firing a bow, you have to think of it as a part of you, an extension, you have to be at one with it. The inner stillness and focus that comes when you do this is obvious to those around you. It builds trust, confidence and security. It lets your inner energy shine.
So, today it's a case of finding that inner stillness and focus. Harder to do sometimes, with the chaos that is life, but possible. And if you need help in finding that inner stillness, you can reach me here.
It's Saturday and today we have some female energy coming to us in the shape of The Green Woman. I've been wondering when I'd get some of the female energy I've been sensing, come into play.
So, what does the Green Woman represent to you? Beyond being a mother, a muse, fertile thoughts and strong intuition. The last time she appeared to me was the 13th of June, just as I worked out and confirmed myself that I was pregnant for the third and final time.
She totally encompasses wildness, green energy, calmness... something I am so in need of right now, I promise you. She can promise a lot and deliver on that promise too, if you're up for her challenges. Her rewards are inner kinship and a deepening love bond to the Earth.
She usually joins us at the Midsummer Solstice, which has just passed but she still casts enough light for us to see by, even thought she's gone to bed by 8pm!
Right now, today, she's reminding us to protect, learn, be prepared to be initiated into a loving and fertile relationship (either human or universally) where you may be shown the path to understanding and commune better with nature. She's the one handing to us, responsibility, if we're humble and connected enough to take on her magnanimous and generous spirit. Learn from the abundant joyous spirit she is casting today. And since I'll be enjoying the outdoors a lot with the children a lot this weekend (regardless of what the weather thinks) remember: our children are not children forever.