Well, why not? Should it be someone else that travels your life journey? The “Why Me?” question implies something of a defeatist attitude.
We all get down from time to time and we all think: Why me?! occasionally. Staying there can cause more problems than turning it around from “Why me?” to “Try me!” My children certainly do not like me when I turn to them and say: “try it” when they’re pushing the boat out. They don’t like it either when they’re whining and my reaction is to “Go and try it.”
There’s a brilliant meme that’s been hitting Facebook and I think it ties very well into answering this question.
It doesn’t have to be the Devil that asks, though it is usually someone we don’t like, adding more to our plate when frankly, we can do without that kind of nonsense. The boss, for example, or customers who know something is broken at five o’clock, but they’ve had the files and the system update for two days.
During this school holiday (which is seven weeks long!) the chances are it’s going to be the kids, turning my hair more grey than usual. That’s okay, they’re my kids, I’m the mum, I gave them that right when they were born to do that. There are, however, boundaries.
And that is where the “Why me?” phrase comes from: when we don’t or cannot apply a boundary, or say: enough already! Why do we feel like that? I think it’s because we’re afraid sometimes of telling the boss, No. We’re not wanting to offend someone new when they’re clearly not going to fit in, though it’s a word that we have used on small people and because of small people from the moment that they’re born. It’s a word we use to keep people safe, confine them or set boundaries.
So, what can the Tarot tell us about the question, Why Me?
- If not you, then who else? ~ Three of Bows
- What else do you need to consider? ~ Queen of Vessels
- This is, Why Me? ~ Two of Stones
With my daughter’s help, we have three cards for you. The first asks you: If it’s not you, then who else could do this? The Three of Bows comes out to remind you that actually, you have a choice! Look at the paths here, there are three and even if The Seer is the one in the hooded robe, you’re being given a choice. Don’t be defeatist about it. You can choose to either do it or not. Rise to the challenge, or pick another. The Queen of Vessels comes up as the next card, reminding you that you need to be wise in your responses, determined in your results and whilst you can give in, you cannot give up. This salmon will return to her spawning grounds, she will get there and she’ll swallow some hazelnuts for nourishment. She’s not going to give up, but she may give in to conserve her strength when she needs it. The Two of Stones comes out to say: It’s you because there’s a lesson here to learn. It’s about setting and enforcing boundaries (as I mentioned above) and standing your ground.
I hope you’ve enjoyed my little blog post this week, enjoy yourself and remember, it’s not always you, sometimes it’s others. Don’t be defeatist and feel free to whisper back to the Devil: I Am, I Can, I Will!